I’ve been busy designing a playroom for Marie + Henry, and wanted to share a bit of the inspiration behind it. We recently renovated our basement to accommodate two mobile toddler twins who need more room for their activities, toys, and imaginations. I used a lot of white to brighten up the space, and wanted the furniture + accents to be cheerful and colorful. Chalkboard (and white board) elements are throughout the space, and we continue to add fun pieces, like the vintage find in this clip. All of the elements are slowly coming together, and I’ll be revealing the finished design soon!
quirky lighting… black + white drum pendant by stray dog designs
storage wall unit…cameron creativity storage system by pottery barn kids
playful flooring… checkerboard FLOR tiles
activity table… woody chalkboard table + chairs by offi
My apologies for being a bit absent here lately…I’ve been busy updating and re-launching my personal blog, fleurishing (big thanks to the lovely ladies of Curious + Co. Creative)! While many of you know of my other site, for those who don’t…it’s where I indulge my francophilia, and get a bit more personal. While I share a good bit of my family life here on nesting, I consider fleurishing to be more of a journal. I try to keep things here solely focused on motherhood, baby + kids…which consumes most of my life now anyway (and I couldn’t be happier about that)! Please visit me at fleurishing, and I will be back here soon with new content. This site will also be getting a bit of a makeover very soon-stay tuned, and as always, thank you for your support!
As my first mother’s day approaches, I realize I have yet to share my thoughts on being a twin mom. This post is long overdue-it’s taken me nine months (oh the irony) to get my thoughts together on the subject (and they’re still not entirely together, not sure they ever will be). Discovering you are going to be a mother of two (at once) is an amazing, surreal and overwhelming experience. Becoming a mother is already such a major life-changing event, and adding multiples to the scenario grows it exponentially. My first reaction to our shock of a lifetime news (at 6 weeks) was ridiculously emotional-I instantly began crying and laughing simultaneously, and mr. fleurishing started crying and cursing! I wish we had it on video, because it was so hysterical…and so pure.
Being the anxious type A that I am, my mind immediately jumped to the all of the unknowns and “what-if’s” of twin pregnancy: can I/we handle this, is my body physically capable of this, will the nursery be big enough, can we afford this-the list goes on. My mind took off at a million miles a minute, and I got lost in google for weeks. I was excited, but at that point, mostly terrified, and found myself mourning the idea of pregnancy and motherhood that I had envisioned. One baby to birth, buy a crib for, to name, to bond with…ONE. Accepting the reality of twins was a long process, and it wasn’t until I heard them both cry that I allowed myself to fully believe it. It wasn’t until the 3 month mark that I could catch my breath, and start to enjoy being the mother of twins. To marvel at the miracle of them, and get enough sleep to stay conscious enough to do so! It was then that I realized how truly lucky we were (and are) to have this experience. That we were destined for this, and that the pros far outweigh the cons.
I’ll start with the cons. The pregnancy is very difficult, and often times, frightening (I had it easy compared to many). Once they arrive, you have to choose-choose a child to help, to console, to feed. It feels awful, and goes against every instinct as a mother. Having twins is expensive…no, you don’t need two of everything, but close. It takes longer to get to know each child, to bond with them individually. Finding time for yourself and for your marriage is difficult. While having children can stress any relationship, twins divide your attention and time by two. Twins certainly put you to the test, in every kind of way (especially when they start scheming as a team, oh boy).
I could go on forever about the pros. You only have to be pregnant once for two babies-DONE! Double the cuddles, double the giggles, double the love. Henry and Marie are already best friends, and having a built-in playmate is wonderful for them and us, and they essentially start learning social skills and sharing in the womb! As parents, we never want for baby time, and in the case of boy/girl twins like ours, we get to see mars/venus exemplified before our eyes, which honestly adds an entirely new level of understanding on the subject. The efficiency is fabulous-we put away items as they outgrow them, teach them things at the same time, experience developmental milestones (mostly) simultaneously, etc…with them being the same age, it allows us single-mindedness when parenting. (I have great respect for my friends juggling a baby and a toddler!) Other parents (moms especially) tend to put you on a pedestal, which is both a good and bad thing. But having evenly beefed up mommy arms is super cool.
I’ve been told by some that I make it look easy (thank you)…but as you know, what you see here on the blog is usually not the nitty gritty of everyday life. We are still adapting to our new life, and adjusting to parenting twins…obviously we still have a world of learning to do. We get stopped by curious people often, and many say we have a “rich man’s family”….we are certainly rich in love. There are so many times when I look at them in complete awe, and wonder how I got so lucky. It is an honor and a privilege to be their mother and I cannot wait for all that is to come!
wishing my fellow moms (of humans + fur babies) a happymother’s day
It’s been a busy nine months, whew! Henry + Marie are now very mobile, working as a team to wreak havoc around the house. I did not include baby proofing items above, but the best money we spent so far is on magnetic cabinet locks (goodbye unsightly latches)! So much happens in 6-9 months…different for everyone of course but for us it’s been major-solids, crawling, standing, sleep pattern changes, teething, babbling, and now (assisted) walking! It’s enough to make your head spin, with twins. These items are their, and our favorites-so many of them are essential to our daily routines I don’t know what I would do without them!
1. The Mamas + Papas Baby Snug‘s were excellent for supporting them when they first began holding their heads up, and we still use them occasionally for book reading or lounging.
2. I feel like we all have a Sophie-or in our case, two, three, or four of them! They really are the best teether, and we have and love other members of the Sophie family as well.
3. Once we started using sippy cups I experimented with a few brands but settled on the Tommee Tippee, especially since they were used to their bottles for milk. They’re pros with them now!
4. We love everything by Plan Toys, but this percussion set is a favorite with both Marie and Henry!
5. All the crinkly books by Jelly Cat are so great for babies, and easy to tote around in your diaper bag and/or car. Perfect for dining out distraction too!
6. We are still using HALO sleepsacks at night, but switched to the non swaddle/wearable blanket kind around 6 months.
7. Henry absolutely loves this xylophone…he is very focused and almost always goes to that toy first, it’s so cute. Future rockstar?
8. The Stokke Tripp Trapp is worth every penny…comfortable, practical (not too many nooks and cranny’s for crumbs to find),blends with your decor, and grows with your child!
9. Do you know about Pinhole Press? The names + faces board book is my new go to recommendation for all kids…the best!
11. The very popular Angel Dear lovies are the kids go to blankies…their nicknames are “bunny” and “monkey” so these are perfect.
Marie + Henry’s nursery is featured today on Hellobee, which happens to be a favorite site of mine for parenting and little ones inspiration. If you are linking over from there…welcome! I would love to get to know you and your littles…you can also find me HERE.
photography by courtney apple
You are my wild is a weekly portrait project, with 14 different photographers sharing how they see their children. It’s making the blog rounds, but I just had to share…love the concept. Check out the site to learn more and be inspired!
Marie + Henry are seven months old today! So this video should thoroughly confuse you as it was taken halfway into their six month with the knowledge that editing time would mean sharing it around Valentine’s Day! My apologies for the tardiness but I think this bit of digital baby love should make up for it. Wishing you all beautiful and life changing love…all year long. If you already have it, treasure it.
p.s… can someone please tell father time to develop amnesia?! ah!
Many thanks to Oh So Beautiful Paper for featuring our letterpress birth announcements, design by the talented ladies of Curious and Co. and printed by Colleen of Cleanwash Letterpress. I’m happy to be able to call them all friends!
these moments…the ones that words cannot do justice…the ones we treasure forever.
My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer today, totally unrelated to me posting this (crazy). She has been told that surgery should take care of it, no chemo or radiation needed so we are very thankful. It is still very jarring hearing those words….I happened to be at my parents house when they got the call, and I’m glad I was. The realization that my health and the future health of my daughter being impacted is also on my mind, secondary to my mother’s health of course. It is all very sobering, and is a reminder to treasure every moment, every day. I love you more than words Mom.
I stumbled upon this gem of a kids craft project and had to share…so adorable!